As women who are seeking God-driven relationships with members of the opposite sex it is important that we be on the lookout for the characteristics in that special someone that can deter you from having a respectful, meaningful and safe courtship experience.
That being said if we can think about the good things that are green lights in a relationship then we can understand what red flags are to avoid and so with this blog article I have listed the 5 top green lights so you can mark whether your date or partner has these or not.
1) He respects your family
Your family is made foremost by your parents and possibly other siblings; is the first place you learned everything in life and where you find comfort from the rest of the world. It is where you will visit on special occasions and so it is important that your future spouse or current partner respects them as well as you. That being said sometimes your parents may not like your spouse and in those cases, I would get counsel on how to maintain a cordial relationship as not to isolate from them and be stranded if the worst ever happens.
2) He handles criticism well
Being able to handle criticism isn’t just something for the workplace, it is a critical characteristic that can contribute to the success of your relationship. When he is criticized by someone either in your household or in public such as on the road does he cuss excessively or hit things to let out his anger or does he maintain a respectful demeanor and reasonable attitude. After all it is written that oppression makes a righteous man mad and so it will happen and it is good when it does as those who let off steam occasionally are less likely to blow up in a moment’s notice.
3) He is emotionally accessible
A man who is interested in you will want to know about your day and will listen actively to your perspective. He will keep you in mind as he makes decisions and sets goals for his future. That being said don’t hang on too tight as that can steer him in the wrong direction. Thank him when he volunteers information about his life and dreams. During arguments let him win the discussion from time to time, especially if he is being reasonable. Trouble is bound to come, and they aren’t always a sign to pick up and leave. We all have baggage. Keep this fact in mind and let the small things go.
Remember being forgiving is a part of being Christ-like.
4) He cheers you on
This should go without saying but every man wants someone he can be proud of with. Marriage is the biggest investment right after being a parent and so you want someone who will be by your side even if you falter or cave into the pressure of the ground around you much like Job and just like him, you need someone who will remain open to your input and also cheers you to keep marching on. We are warriors as believers and so it is important that no matter what we stay faithful to God and to the amazing blessing of having a companion to share the promise with.
5) He remains faithful despite hardship
Let’s just be honest sometimes a woman doesn’t feel like doing much more than lying on the couch and eating ice cream. That fact will not deter any future partner as he will be just as understanding and supportive in those times as when he is able to be in your company.
