When it comes to marriage, many people enter relationships hoping the other person will complete them. But the truth is, a partner is not the answer to every question you have. Marriage works best when both individuals are already striving to be whole on their own.
Getting to know someone takes intention. There will be moments when the person you’re dating doesn’t say the right thing or doesn’t know what to say at all. That’s why it’s important to have meaningful questions to guide your conversations, along with a clear intention for your relationship.
One practical way to truly get to know someone is by spending time together in public settings. Activities like bowling, visiting a museum, walking through an art gallery, or attending a fair allow you to observe each other in different environments. These moments reveal more than words alone ever could.
Being in public is not about involving others so much that you lose focus on each other. Instead, it creates opportunities to express yourself naturally and to see how the other person responds to the world around them. You begin to notice things like how they treat strangers, how they handle inconvenience, and whether you genuinely enjoy being in the same environment together.
When getting to know someone, it can be tempting to ask, “Why spend money on dates when we could just take a walk in the park or spend time at home?” While those options may seem convenient, they can sometimes become shortcuts that limit how well you truly get to know each other.
When getting to know someone, it can be tempting to ask, “Why spend money on dates when we could just take a walk in the park or spend time at home?” While those options may seem convenient, they can sometimes become shortcuts that limit how well you truly get to know each other.
In some cases, overly private settings can create unnecessary pressure or blur boundaries, especially early on. They may also give someone access to your personal space and time before you’ve had the opportunity to fully understand who they are and what they value.
A date, on the other hand, is an intentional opportunity to connect. It allows you to experience each other in different environments, observe how you both interact with the world, and learn things that a phone call or even a list of questions simply cannot reveal.
This doesn’t mean every date has to be expensive. Rather, it’s about being purposeful. Investing in shared experiences, while also being mindful of your budget. It shows that you value both yourself and the process of getting to know the other person in a meaningful and thoughtful way.
Here is my Payhip store link to questions to prepare you for a lifetime of bliss:
https://payhip.com/b/fvNim: Twenty courtship questions to guide your conversation when dating or courting.